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Specialized Parenting: When Typical Parenting Just Doesn’t Fit
Parents tell me they worry about their role in their children’s behavior challenges. So let’s just get that out of the way…
Obviously you care enough to get extra help for your child. That’s why you’re here right now, right? :)
This is what I think, and you can see if you agree.
Having been through this myself, I’m 90% certain that you are not directly responsible for the development of your child’s behavioral or emotional problems. As your child’s primary caregiver (not stepparent), you are the only one with the power to resolve his or her behavior and emotional problems.
Some children are more difficult to parent than others. Lots of children have short attention spans. It’s hard for them to handle change. Some kids are strong-willed and some have developmental differences. Typical parenting works for children with easy dispositions.
If your child has special needs, specialized parenting helps you form a better fit with him or her. With specialized skills, you can manage your child easier than with typical parenting.
If you adopt Respect Effect Specialized Parenting. And if your child responds to it the same way that many children with similar behavior issues respond, you can expect your child to become happier, more cooperative, more affectionate, and better behaved at home and at school. That is the place to start. And that is what I am here to help you accomplish.
Yes, you want to know more about Respect Effect Specialized Parenting. And you want to know more about other families who have enjoyed similar improvements.
And when you are satisfied that I will do what I say, and follow through with you to the end, I hope you will start with one of my carefully designed parenting resources to help you on your way back to family harmony and parenting peace.
Sound good to you?
Shorty Awards for Most Valuable Health Content on Twitter
Twitter is a social media network for building relationships with others by
phone or computer. Here’s the catch… You only get 140 characters in which
to relay each message.
It’s PERFECT for fast communication without wading through the confusing
fluff we often get otherwise. And it’s perfect for busy parents who may not
LOVE to read.
Twitter is my favorite way to attract seekers of valuable information
on raising children with special needs.
The Shorty Awards finished yesterday for the most valuable short content on
Twitter in 26 categories.
I was first nominated for the Shorty Awards in the health category on December
16, 2008. By midnight yesterday, I had received 22 nominations and 127 votes
to win for producer of best health content.
Each voter was required to enter WHY they placed their votes with me. You can
see their comments here.
http://shortyawards.com/user/ADHDParenting <<<<<<<<<
Yes, I did a little campaigning and I’ll tell you why…
I believe that raising children with special needs is one of the MOST challenging
roles parents face. The lack of REAL knowledge and REAL support out there is
staggering.
So much of what you can find for free are confusing, conflicting, and unproven
opinions rather than time-tested, kid-proven, and parent-approved strategies
based on trusted psychology.
Why did I focus on winning this award?
Because it attracts attention to the IMPORTANT and VALUABLE role of parenting,
kids with special needs or not.
It is a noble cause to raise our children to be fulfilled, independent, contributing,
and law-abiding citizens.
It’s more important than our positions, our bank balances, and our stores of
belongings. It is our legacy. And a fine one to strive for.
And that is why I am deeply honored to have secured this attention for parenting,
for families, and for our future.
Winners are invited to attend an awards ceremony in New York City. I am for one
reason only - going because I hope that there will be plenty of media attention to
the cause of bringing parenting to the forefront. Yes, I’ll admit I’m thrilled to be able
to introduce my daughter to one of my favorite cities.
If you have not joined Twitter, I invite you to join today. Just go to http://www.twitter.com
and sign up for an account. Complete your brief bio. If my 75 year-old mother
can do it, I’m just guessing you can too.
Then go to my Twitter page at http://www.twitter.com/adhdparenting
In the top left corner, under my picture, hit the follow button. Then you can ask
me questions and join conversations with others with varying views.
It’s FASCINATING.
Thank you for allowing me to share with you this happy news. And to set the
stage for more interesting conversations in the future.
Please join my RSS feed up there in the top right corner of this page. That way
you’ll get my blog updates as they are entered. Also you’ll want to sign up for
my free report on Seven Simple Ways to Get Your Child to Listen to You.
I’ll respect your time with my brief informative updates that help you parent. If
you ever desire to stop this dialogue with me, you can easily unsubscribe at the
end of every message.
Be on the lookout for information on my new radio show on Blog Talk
Radio starting Tuesday morning at 11:00. I’ll post it here. So sign up for
the RSS feed now. (That means you’ll get an e-mail each time I post
to this blog.)
Please remember that I am here for you, I care, and I want to help, OK?
Hope to tweet (talk) with you soon on Twitter and here.
Parenting Advice: What to do when your child says, “I hate you.”…
If your child yells, I hate you,” and you put on a hurt look or act like a pat of melted butter, he wins this round of emotional blackmail. It’s easier for him to verbally abuse “safe Mommy who loves him” than to face the hurtful truth, so it’s up to you to change.
Calmly say, “I give you permission to hate me. Do you need to hate me for ten or fifteen [double digit] minutes?” Let him choose.
Set the timer and leave the room. When it goes off, check on your child. If he is still scowling, say, “I see that you’re still daggering me with your eyes, so I’ll give you more time to be angry with me.” (Daggering is our word for the “looking though eye slits” sneer that your child uses to show you he is unhappy with you.)
“How many more minutes do you need to hate me this time, five or seven [single digit] minutes?” Allow him to choose. Set the timer and leave the room.
When the timer goes off this time, check with him and ask, “How do you feel? Have you changed your opinion about me?” Accept your child’s opinion. Thank him, give him a hug, and go on with what you were doing. This method also works when he says, “I’m mad at you,” “I’m angry with you,” and “You’re making me furious.”
ADHD Parenting Tips: First Parenting Success Chat of 2009 - Today
You’re coming, right?
Here’s the scoop:
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=> Sunday January 11th
4 pm Eastern (3 pm Central, 1 pm Pacific)
Teleseminar/Webcast (listen by phone or computer)
http://budurl.com/ParentingChat <<<<<<<<<<<<<<
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In case you haven’t attended a teleseminar before,
you simply call in by phone or login by computer
and you can hear me talking. Best part is that lots
of your online friends will be listening, too.
You’ll get the phone number to dial when you sign up.
You’ll also get the webpage you can go to.
That page even has a Study guide so you can follow along.
It’s a good idea to call in or login a little early so you can
print out it out if you want.
Topic:
“How to get your child to listen without arguing.”
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http://budurl.com/ParentingChat <== Register Here!
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When you sign up, check your inbox to confirm that
you want me to send you the login information, OK?
Even if you cannot attend, register anyway,
so I can send you a link to the Audio Replay…
Here’s just a sampling of what will be discussed
during the teleseminar…
The secret to getting your child to listen.
The four (4) things it takes to solve your
child’s behavior problems.
How to stop the frustrating no-win arguments.
How to get your child to stop hitting siblings.
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http://budurl.com/ParentingChat <== Get the Full Story & Register!
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We’ll be waiting for you.
This is gonna be great, so
Get Ready To…
Discover a better way to get your child
to start listening and stop arguing.
I’ll be making a big announcement on this call
about a new free service you don’t want to miss.
So sign up and dial in, OK?
And listen how how you can get your free
15 Oneliner Comebacks that Stop Disrespect as a special
thank you for attending.
ADD ADHD Parenting: Building The House of Respect - Preparing Your Child With Values, Skills, and the Success Mindset
It’s easy to get so busy raising our kids that we lose scope of the ultimate goal. That goal is to prepare our children with the values, skills, and mindset for success.
A widely-accepted definition of success is the ability to support oneself in a career he enjoys. It includes the ability to create and maintain enriching relationships. And requires remaining a law-abiding citizen not dependent on drugs or alcohol.
I have an embarrassing admission. It bothers me that I got so involved in running this business, that I lost track of some of your goals, too.
That is why I’m focusing more on connecting with you, to find out what you want and need to assist you in parenting.
On thing is certain. You want the BEST information out there to help your child be the best that he or she can be.
That is why I’m forcing myself out here to the end of the high dive to make this commitment to you here before the blogosphere and the world.
I will write an informative article or blog or Twitter post, or host an online webcast, tweet event, or teleseminar at least every other day for the next 365 days, no matter what, even if I’m in traction in Tecumseh, and there’s a tornado. (I could go on and on with that from A-Z!)
You see, here’s the thing. I figure if you’re out there in the trenches parenting, I can at least provide assistance when you ask. That’s just right.
The core theme of our dialogue will be - Building the House of Respect. Because when you have the tools and techniques with which to provide your child with what he needs, he will feel more understood and respected. In return, he will improve his behavior at home and school to win your favor.
That’s the Respect Effect promise. That is a worthy goal for the New Year.
I propose we accomplish this in 3 main ways.
- Educate you about the signs and needs of children with ADHD and ODD.
- Continue your education with me to prepare your child for success with Respect Effect Parenting.
- Create momentum through alliances, connections, and synergy with like-minded thought leaders and vendors.
You’ve already discovered that regular parenting does NOT work for kids with ADHD, ODD, Asperger’s, and autism. If your child has been diagnosed with one or more of this conditions, he’ll benefit from your using additional tools and techniques that respect his learning and communication preferences. I am committed to provide those tools and techniques to you in the fastest, easiest, and most economical way possible.
And so to start, I invite you to see your parenting role as the builder of the house of respect.
The foundation of this house is your parent-child relationship. If your child is angry now, you may have a little work to do on this. That’s the easiest part. Within only 15 minutes a day, you can strengthen your relationship a lot within two weeks. Without this crucial foundation, your child will continue to ignore and challenge you.
The walls of this house, the structure, is the predictable order of the day. So your child can SEE you have a plan and are sticking to it.
The ceiling of this house, what your child is always looking up to, what holds the tops of the walls together, is reward. That is your child’s reward for sticking to your plan.
What holds all this together is your consistency. That’s 90% of your success. That’s easy because when you feel the good feelings of your child’s increased respect and cooperation, you’ll WANT to stick with it, too.
With this framework complete, you’ll have the right place in which to prepare your child with the values, skills, guidance, discipline, and good character he needs for a happier and more fulfilling independent adult life. That’s the finish out, the lighting, the finishes, and the sparkle.
That is my blueprint for building the house of respect and preparing your child for success. And that is my pledge to you. Along the way I will educate, motivate, support, and yes, entertain you. We might as well have some fun while we’re at it, right?
OK, that’s a lot for now. Until our next conversation, I’m here for you…
Meanwhile, please follow me at http://www.twitter.com/adhdparenting
I appreciate you.
Sincerely yours in parenting success,
Debra Sale Wendler
Respect Effect Mom
Parenting Advice: How This Mom Raised 2 Millionaires…
I’ve known Matt for several years now. After witnessing what Matt accomplishes consistently, seeing his diligence, his work ethic, and his commitment to his family, friends, and community, I have enormous respect for him. Because I know what he overcame to accomplish all this. Read the rest or post a comment »
Child behavior: How to Survive the Holidays…
Your child NEEDS structure, a predictable order to the day. The holidays are often filled with visitors, parties, and outings that don’t fit neatly into your existing structure. This irregularity makes your child feel anxious, worried, and insecure because he doesn’t know what’s going to happen. Read the rest or post a comment »
Your Child’s Behavior: Do you want more of this next year?….
Holiday Shopping: Temper Tantrums - How Can We Help?
So even if someone asks for help, it may be wise to enter in very reluctantly and with very few words. Read the rest or post a comment »
Tonight Matt Bacak Interviews Debra Sale Wendler - Respect Effect Mom…
How you can have your first peaceful holiday season
with your child, perhaps ever…
Sound good?
Internet millionaire, Matt Bacak, whose mother used
many of these same methods to help him become the
happy and successful family man he is today,
interviews me TONIGHT. Read the rest or post a comment »