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ADD ADHD Parenting: Building The House of Respect - Preparing Your Child With Values, Skills, and the Success Mindset
It’s easy to get so busy raising our kids that we lose scope of the ultimate goal. That goal is to prepare our children with the values, skills, and mindset for success.
A widely-accepted definition of success is the ability to support oneself in a career he enjoys. It includes the ability to create and maintain enriching relationships. And requires remaining a law-abiding citizen not dependent on drugs or alcohol.
I have an embarrassing admission. It bothers me that I got so involved in running this business, that I lost track of some of your goals, too.
That is why I’m focusing more on connecting with you, to find out what you want and need to assist you in parenting.
On thing is certain. You want the BEST information out there to help your child be the best that he or she can be.
That is why I’m forcing myself out here to the end of the high dive to make this commitment to you here before the blogosphere and the world.
I will write an informative article or blog or Twitter post, or host an online webcast, tweet event, or teleseminar at least every other day for the next 365 days, no matter what, even if I’m in traction in Tecumseh, and there’s a tornado. (I could go on and on with that from A-Z!)
You see, here’s the thing. I figure if you’re out there in the trenches parenting, I can at least provide assistance when you ask. That’s just right.
The core theme of our dialogue will be - Building the House of Respect. Because when you have the tools and techniques with which to provide your child with what he needs, he will feel more understood and respected. In return, he will improve his behavior at home and school to win your favor.
That’s the Respect Effect promise. That is a worthy goal for the New Year.
I propose we accomplish this in 3 main ways.
- Educate you about the signs and needs of children with ADHD and ODD.
- Continue your education with me to prepare your child for success with Respect Effect Parenting.
- Create momentum through alliances, connections, and synergy with like-minded thought leaders and vendors.
You’ve already discovered that regular parenting does NOT work for kids with ADHD, ODD, Asperger’s, and autism. If your child has been diagnosed with one or more of this conditions, he’ll benefit from your using additional tools and techniques that respect his learning and communication preferences. I am committed to provide those tools and techniques to you in the fastest, easiest, and most economical way possible.
And so to start, I invite you to see your parenting role as the builder of the house of respect.
The foundation of this house is your parent-child relationship. If your child is angry now, you may have a little work to do on this. That’s the easiest part. Within only 15 minutes a day, you can strengthen your relationship a lot within two weeks. Without this crucial foundation, your child will continue to ignore and challenge you.
The walls of this house, the structure, is the predictable order of the day. So your child can SEE you have a plan and are sticking to it.
The ceiling of this house, what your child is always looking up to, what holds the tops of the walls together, is reward. That is your child’s reward for sticking to your plan.
What holds all this together is your consistency. That’s 90% of your success. That’s easy because when you feel the good feelings of your child’s increased respect and cooperation, you’ll WANT to stick with it, too.
With this framework complete, you’ll have the right place in which to prepare your child with the values, skills, guidance, discipline, and good character he needs for a happier and more fulfilling independent adult life. That’s the finish out, the lighting, the finishes, and the sparkle.
That is my blueprint for building the house of respect and preparing your child for success. And that is my pledge to you. Along the way I will educate, motivate, support, and yes, entertain you. We might as well have some fun while we’re at it, right?
OK, that’s a lot for now. Until our next conversation, I’m here for you…
Meanwhile, please follow me at http://www.twitter.com/adhdparenting
I appreciate you.
Sincerely yours in parenting success,
Debra Sale Wendler
Respect Effect Mom
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Sincerely yours in parenting success,
Debra Sale Wendler
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January 6th, 2009 at 2:35 pm
I am interested to follow your posts as you show us techniques for building our house of respect. The roof is the hardest part for us, as our teen does not seem to be motivated by intrinsic rewards or extrinsic for any length of time.
January 6th, 2009 at 5:36 pm
Loved the article. Agree that you might as well have fun while you’re at it. Always be happy with your job and in raising / teaching your children. It reflects on the kids; They aren’t happy w/unhappy, grumpy parents.