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Children Stealing: What to Do if Your Child Steals From Friends
Parents of children with ADHD commonly complain of their children stealing.
If you notice your child playing with an unfamiliar item, for example a pocket knife, ask him where it came from. If he says he found it, back off for a while. At least an hour later, say, “Son, I want you to sit on the sofa for five minutes while you decide what you’re going to tell me about this knife.”
If he tells you he took it from his friend, say, “Tell me three reasons that knife could be worth losing your friend.” Review the problem-solving steps (from Session 33) with your child. You will probably decide he needs to write an apology letter (see Session 7) and read it to his friend and return the knife. Your child must also pay restitution of three times the value of the knife.
He may opt to replace the value with an item of higher value that he knows the child desires. Your child may need to sign a loan agreement from you to repay the price of the replacement item with extra chores he lists. Accompany your child to his friend’s house. Rehearse with him in advance that he will say. For example, “Tim, I’m really sorry I took your knife. I don’t know what I was thinking.
I don’t think I was thinking at all. No knife is worth losing your friendship. Will you please forgive me?” After your child delivers his heartfelt apology, he must return the stolen item and pay his friend restitution.When you return home, don’t be surprised if your humbled child says, “Mom, thank you for helping me solve my problem. I didn’t want to do it, but now that I did, I know I did the right thing. I feel a lot better.” Simply say, “Son, you make me proud.”
Train your child values and hold him accountable for his actions with logical consequences. If you use these methods consistently each time you suspect stealing, your child will probably decide that stealing is more trouble than it is worth.
You Can Solve This
Consistency and follow through is critical to a possible cure of children’s stealing.I invite you to use these methods to transform quickly from reactive parent to surprisingly calm, cool, and collected parent worthy of attention and respect.
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From Debra Sale Wendler - Respect Effect Mom and Respect Effect Parenting at http://www.AdhdParentingSuccess.com
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Debra Sale Wendler
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