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Parenting Angry Children - Seven Easy Ways to Transform From Reactive to Respected Parent

Monday, July 6th, 2009 Children with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), bipolar, autism, Asperger's syndrome, and PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified), can be difficult to manage sometimes. If your child has one of these conditions, he may try to push your buttons so you lose control and he wins. The only way out of this gridlock is to develop some winning tactics of your own.Adopt these winning tactics that soothe your child and elevate your parenting style:1. Refuse to argue. Your child's first line of defense (and distraction from the real issue at hand) is to start an argument. Counter his defensive tactic with your calm logic.For example, if you child doesn't want to do the dishes,...

Parenting Advice: What to do when your child says, “I hate you.”…

Wednesday, January 14th, 2009 If your child yells, I hate you," and you put on a hurt look or act like a pat of melted butter, he wins this round of emotional blackmail. It's easier for him to verbally abuse "safe Mommy who loves him" than to face the hurtful truth, so it's up to you to change. Calmly say, “I give you permission to hate me.  Do you need to hate me for ten or fifteen [double digit] minutes?”  Let him choose.  Set the timer and leave the room.  When it goes off, check on your child.  If he is still scowling, say, “I see that you’re still daggering me with your eyes, so I’ll give you more time to be angry with me.” (Daggering is our word for the “looking though eye slits”...

Parenting Advice: How This Mom Raised 2 Millionaires…

Saturday, December 27th, 2008 Do you know Matt Bacak?  Not only is Matt one of the world's most successful internet marketers, he is also a community-minded family man. And he has ADHD and dyslexia.  I've known Matt for several years now. After witnessing what Matt accomplishes consistently, seeing his diligence, his work ethic, and his commitment to his family, friends, and community, I have enormous respect for him. Because I know what he overcame to accomplish all this.  Matt speaks lovingly and often of his mother. When he first interviewed me for our audio "How to Help Your Child Without Losing your Mind" CD, he was astonished to discover how many of the methods I recommend are the same methods his mother used to raise him...

Holiday Shopping: Temper Tantrums - How Can We Help?

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008 Sometimes we ASK for help and advice, but we reject it if it's not what we want to hear. If we don't already trust and respect the person, we're more likely to disagree, no matter WHAT they suggest, right? So even if someone asks for help, it may be wise to enter in very reluctantly and with very few words. So if a mom asks me, "How do I get my child to stop hitting me?" I may be more inclined to say, "Wow, that's probably getting old. Tell me more." Why? Because she may just be testing to see if I rush in. I did that enthusiastically in the past more times than I care to admit. However, I...

ADHD School: Homework Problems Solved - This Gift…

Wednesday, December 3rd, 2008 Tonight's Respect Effect Parenting Success Summit Event Session 1 - Kumon - No more homework police Remember when you were little and you had that ONE gift you were just DYING to give your mom or dad? Just thinking about their opening it made you feel fantastic... That's how I feel about this session with Dr. Mary Mokris of Kumon North America. Listen, if you know anyone with a child who's struggling in school, send this to them. They've just GOT to attend this session. http://www.respecteffectparenting.com <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< ************************************* This one event alone will CHANGE YOUR LIFE. That's a promise. If I could do ONE thing over again, I would have kept my son with ADHD in Kumon from kindergarten til...

ADHD Parenting: Your Child CAN Make Bs and Behave in School with These 7 Simple Tips

Friday, October 17th, 2008 If your child is starting to sink in school, tow him in quickly with these 7 sure-fire lifesavers. Get your child tested for holes in his learning. I recommend Kumon for math and reading. Practice math facts daily.  For younger children start with large flashcards of addition and subtraction. For older children, practice multiplication tables. And give three long division problems a day. Use graph paper. (If he's counting on his fingers, return to the tables.)  Practice writing each day. Provide wide-ruled paper and draw in 1/2 rule and 3/4 rules between lines. Get him to draw three rows of loops. Above the line (as in cursive lowercase bs) and below the lines (as in lowercase gs).  Establish an after-school...

Have You Ever Wondered What Will Happen If You Do Nothing?

Thursday, December 20th, 2007 I’ll tell you what you can expect.… First you can wave goodbye to the hopes and dreams that you had for your child when he was a baby. Because chances are that he will be dependent on you for many years. At least until you refuse to give him ANYTHING. Because he will have trouble supporting himself.Because, without your help, he will have trouble learning how to become socially acceptable.So he will be a loner, possibly even an outcast, with anger issues, financial problems, and possibly drug and alcohol addictions. And problems with the law. You can probably think of lots of people like that, perhaps even family members. They may have untreated ADHD. It’s largely genetically passed.Every member of...

Is Therapy For My Child With ADHD?

Sunday, October 28th, 2007 This is a common request from parents:My child with ADHD is doing well on her prescribed medication. Except she has this terrible screaming meltdown problem. My husband and I have to yell at her and threaten to spank her to get her to stop. Our doctor asked me if I thought we needed therapy. So now I’ll ask you…Is therapy really that important?Yes, therapy is really that important. Here's why... Medication solves only 35% of the problem at best. The rest of thesolution requires therapy, structure and behavior modification, andconsistency. A skilled play therapist can help you with all of these. I highly recommend that all married parents that have children withADHD get marital counseling. Parenting a child with ADHD... Next Entries »