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Children Stealing: What to Do If Your Child Steals from Others

Wednesday, July 8th, 2009 Stealing is a common rite of passage for children. The secret is to develop an action plan and follow it consistently.Let’s assume that your 9-year old child stole his peer’s Squirt Pen at school and you found it in your son’s backpack.  We recommend that you use a token system with which to teach honesty.Give him time to explain his side of the story.  Take a token for each “story” you hear.   If you determine a theft say, “I’m hearing you say that you committed theft.  That’s dishonest.”   Immediately take three tokens.Ask him, “Can you tell me two reasons why you took the pen?”  If he gives you no reasons that he needed it, the theft falls in the “want” category.If he begins to tell the...

Children with ADHD—How to Recognize the Early Signs of ADHD in Children

Wednesday, July 8th, 2009 You will know your child is difficult before he is two years old, especially if you have other children. He exhausts you. He cannot sit still, does not listen to instructions, and gets in trouble constantly. A former foster mother of 36 children with severe ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) said, “These kids make your eyeballs tired.”If your child has behavior problems, it is hard to know what to do next. You may be reluctant to get him assessed right away because you still have questions. What if he just has a lot of energy? What is normal behavior anyway?Typical Milestones of Children without Child Behavior ProblemsAt three years old—he can initiate play activities and he enjoys playing with...

ADHD in Children - How to Get Your Child to Listen to You (Part 3)

Monday, July 6th, 2009  Stage 3: Not Only NO But You'll Pay For ItHere's what it feels like: At this stage, most parents are so miserable, they're trying to find a way out.Here's what your child does: My son was at this stage when he was 8. By then he was hitting us and hurting our feelings all day long. If your child is going to be aggressive, this is when we see it most.Here's what parents typically do: If you worry what your child will do if you ask him to do something (he doesn't want to do), then you're stuck in this miserable state. If you're changing your behavior to please your child so he won't rebel, then he knows you're...

ADHD in Children - How to Get Your Child to Listen to You (Part 2)

Monday, July 6th, 2009  Stage 2: No Way No HowHere's what it feels like: At the moderate stage, most parents are getting discouraged. This usually happens around age 6, but it may be sooner depending on the child's hyperactivity and the parents insistence. It also depends on how oppositional the child may be. (My son was at the moderate stage when he was about 5.) Here's what your child does: He is in charge. You are being held hostage by his angry temper tantrums that last until you give in. He'll have a tantrum every time he doesn't get his way. And he can get quite skilled at them. If this is happening to you, you're both stuck. Your child can't stop it until you...

ADHD in Children - How to Get Your Child to Listen to You - Part 1

Monday, July 6th, 2009 The Problem: Your child is not listening to you. He is not honoring your first request or complying with your wishes.  Parents most common question is "How do I get my child to listen to me?"  This occurs in three main stages depending on your child's hyperactivity and your (his parent's) reactions.  Stage 1: Passive Noncompliance  The first is what we call passive noncompliance.   Here's what it looks like and feels like: Your child is not really defying you and saying NO. But he isn't jumping up and doing what you ask, either. So this leaves you nagging and reminding gently, or not so gently.   Some mothers have to remind their children 5-20 times to get ANYTHING done. Apparently their child...

Parenting Angry Children - Seven Easy Ways to Transform From Reactive to Respected Parent

Monday, July 6th, 2009 Children with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder), ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), bipolar, autism, Asperger's syndrome, and PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified), can be difficult to manage sometimes. If your child has one of these conditions, he may try to push your buttons so you lose control and he wins. The only way out of this gridlock is to develop some winning tactics of your own.Adopt these winning tactics that soothe your child and elevate your parenting style:1. Refuse to argue. Your child's first line of defense (and distraction from the real issue at hand) is to start an argument. Counter his defensive tactic with your calm logic.For example, if you child doesn't want to do the dishes,...

Parenting Advice: How This Mom Raised 2 Millionaires…

Saturday, December 27th, 2008 Do you know Matt Bacak?  Not only is Matt one of the world's most successful internet marketers, he is also a community-minded family man. And he has ADHD and dyslexia.  I've known Matt for several years now. After witnessing what Matt accomplishes consistently, seeing his diligence, his work ethic, and his commitment to his family, friends, and community, I have enormous respect for him. Because I know what he overcame to accomplish all this.  Matt speaks lovingly and often of his mother. When he first interviewed me for our audio "How to Help Your Child Without Losing your Mind" CD, he was astonished to discover how many of the methods I recommend are the same methods his mother used to raise him...

Child behavior: How to Survive the Holidays…

Monday, December 22nd, 2008 If your child tends to fall apart on holidays, then let’s make this holiday different, OK? Much of your happiness during the holidays with your child, depends on what you do today, starting with your forecast. Your child NEEDS structure, a predictable order to the day. The holidays are often filled with visitors, parties, and outings that don't fit neatly into your existing structure. This irregularity makes your child feel anxious, worried, and insecure because he doesn't know what's going to happen. You can easily sooth your child's fear by forecasting often before and during the holidays. Forecasting is simply explaining to your child the projected events of an irregular day. The secret is to break it in to single...

Your Child’s Behavior: Do you want more of this next year?….

Saturday, December 20th, 2008  Because it's very likely that if things keep on as they are now, it will only get worse. So what is a mom to do? If you're out searching for some way, any way, to end your suffering from your child's behavior, you'll know when you've suffered enough.You may be there already right now. If you have suffered enough, and you're ready to do what it takes to have a truly HAPPY New Year, then this is the fastest, easiest way to solve your child's behavior problems with the least amount of human effort possible. http://www.respectrocket.com/mastery.html   If you're not in terrible pain, and if you can wait 4 months to get dramatic results, then you may want to consider this... http://www.respectrocket.com/respecteffectparenting.html Either way, you CAN...

ADHD Parenting: Your Child CAN Make Bs and Behave in School with These 7 Simple Tips

Friday, October 17th, 2008 If your child is starting to sink in school, tow him in quickly with these 7 sure-fire lifesavers. Get your child tested for holes in his learning. I recommend Kumon for math and reading. Practice math facts daily.  For younger children start with large flashcards of addition and subtraction. For older children, practice multiplication tables. And give three long division problems a day. Use graph paper. (If he's counting on his fingers, return to the tables.)  Practice writing each day. Provide wide-ruled paper and draw in 1/2 rule and 3/4 rules between lines. Get him to draw three rows of loops. Above the line (as in cursive lowercase bs) and below the lines (as in lowercase gs).  Establish an after-school... « Previous Entries Next Entries »