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ADHD Parenting: How Do I Convince My Ex To Give Our Son ADHD Medication?

Monday, July 13th, 2009 A reader asks: My son’s father refuses to admit our son has ADHD. So he refuses to administer our son’s prescribed medication during visitation. I want my son to see his father but my son needs his meds. Please tell me what to do. Respect Effect Mom answers: Excuse the shuffling while I get on my soapbox. Often this refusal by fathers to medicate their children with ADHD (who need it) is S E V E R E  - D E N I A L. Here's what I assume is the conversation in these fathers’ heads. "If I refuse to medicate my son, then I am refusing to acknowledge that he has it. And therefore, I could not possibly have...

Children Stealing: What to Do If Your Child Steals from Others

Wednesday, July 8th, 2009 Stealing is a common rite of passage for children. The secret is to develop an action plan and follow it consistently.Let’s assume that your 9-year old child stole his peer’s Squirt Pen at school and you found it in your son’s backpack.  We recommend that you use a token system with which to teach honesty.Give him time to explain his side of the story.  Take a token for each “story” you hear.   If you determine a theft say, “I’m hearing you say that you committed theft.  That’s dishonest.”   Immediately take three tokens.Ask him, “Can you tell me two reasons why you took the pen?”  If he gives you no reasons that he needed it, the theft falls in the “want” category.If he begins to tell the...

Holiday Shopping: Temper Tantrums - How Can We Help?

Wednesday, December 10th, 2008 Sometimes we ASK for help and advice, but we reject it if it's not what we want to hear. If we don't already trust and respect the person, we're more likely to disagree, no matter WHAT they suggest, right? So even if someone asks for help, it may be wise to enter in very reluctantly and with very few words. So if a mom asks me, "How do I get my child to stop hitting me?" I may be more inclined to say, "Wow, that's probably getting old. Tell me more." Why? Because she may just be testing to see if I rush in. I did that enthusiastically in the past more times than I care to admit. However, I...

If you’re not using these strategies to overcome overwhelm…

Monday, December 8th, 2008 ...You might as well not bother doing any of this. THAT'S how important overcoming your own overwhelm really is to solving your child's behavior problems... And how important this next Respect Effect Parenting TeleSeminar is for your success... ==> How to Overcome Overwhelm and Help Your Child <== With adult ADD coach Bonnie Mincu. Live tonight! December 8, 2008 at 6 pm Pacific / 9 pm Eastern http://www.respecteffectparenting.com <== Register here! Even if you cannot make the call, I recommend you register so I can send you the download link to your PHREE book... "17 Sure-fire School Success Strategies" (We sell this for $59.00.) Get ready to Open This Door to Opportunity. These teleslots are filling up fast.... Next Entries »