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Child Protective Services: If You Get a Visit From CPS

If your child accuses you falsely of child abuse, understand this is a common and scary result of a damaged parent-child relationship.  An angry and hurt child can lash out against you to other family members, non-custodial parents, caregivers, teachers, school counselors, therapists, and doctors.  

Child Protective Services (CPS) workers know that a child rarely accuse parents with whom he has a good relationship.  If you suspect that you may get a visit from CPS, clean and organize your household.  It is difficult to think when you are emotional, so recall as much as you can.  Write a list of the answers to these important questions:

  1. What happened?
  2. Who was involved?
  3. When did it happen?
  4. Where did it happen?
  5. How did it happen?
  6. What led to the incident?
  7. Why did it happen?
  8. Were there any witnesses?

 If you get a visit, stay calm.

CPS workers are trained to study bruises and injuries.  Admit it if you struck your child because you “lost it.”  Although it will be difficult for you to confess that you hit your child, it might open the door to ask for help for yourself and your child.  CPS might offer assistance to order a psychological test, parenting classes to help you manage your child, and a referral to a counselor who knows how to work with kids with ADHD. 

They can help you manage the home situation and routine.If you are innocent, invite the CPS investigator to your home to look at the floor plan.  Let them see where the alleged incident occurred.  The key is to be calm.  If you act defensively, are emotional, and use foul language, the intake worker might opt for a court hearing.

Then you will lose more time and patience.  Train your child values and hold him accountable for his actions with logical consequences.  If you use these methods consistently each time you suspect stealing, your child will probably decide that stealing is more trouble than it is worth. 
You Can Solve This.

I invite you to use these methods if you are falsely accused of child abuse by your child. It is much easier to mend your damaged parent-child relationship. You can do it in only three weeks with a 15-minute investment a day.

If you want to mend your parent-child relationship, I invite you to claim your free child behavior–improving report “Three Easy Ways to Improve Your Child’s Behavior Today!”  You can download it when you subscribe athttp://www.AdhdParentingTips.com  It explains the methods I used to improve my son’s ADHD/ODD behavior by 72% in 3 weeks. The sooner you start, the easier it is to help your child. You can do this.

From Debra Sale Wendler - Respect Effect Mom and ADHD Parenting Success at http://www.AdhdParentingSuccess.com